Sometimes it is difficult to know when a relationship has run its course. There are many signs you might not pick up on when you are in love, signs that the bond is no longer as strong as it once was.
When love is on the rocks, there are signs he doesn’t love you anymore. You will need to think about what it is you want from this current union. Here are 13 signs that it is time to leave your toxic relationship.
1. When You Experience More Pain Than Happiness
Sometimes we concentrate on the happy parts of a relationship and ignore the pain it is causing us. If you get frustrated, lonely, sad or are in physical or emotional pain, it is time to move away from this person.
2. Physical Pain
If the person you are in a relationship with is causing you physical pain, do not wait for another moment. Leave immediately. There are shelters where women can go and be safe from an abusive partner. Do not be afraid to leave. You will be taken seriously and be taken care of until you are able to move on. They have resources and counsellors that will be able to help you sort out your feelings and anything else that is blocking you from leaving.
3. Mental and Emotional Pain
If your partner is constantly making fun of you, either the way you look, the way you think, the way you talk, or in any way, is emotional abuse.
If he is controlling and jealous of everything and everyone, that is mental abuse. Any form of bullying and controlling is considered emotional and/or mental abuse and should not be tolerated.
4. Financial Abuse
Many women don’t realize they are suffering from financial abuse. This is when their partner controls the money and she has to ask permission to use any of it.
Even if you have a job and contribute to the financial well-being of the household. If he controls how and when you use your own money or joint accounts, this is financial abuse.
5. He Wants You to Change
If your partner wants you to change the way you dress, act, eat, behave or anything about yourself that is not for a health reason, he does not have your best interest in mind. Some men fall in love with an idea of the kind of woman they want. If they find someone “close enough” then they want to change them.
If he is trying to change you, you will never be “enough” or exactly what he wants. Better to leave now than to drive yourself crazy trying to change.
6. You Expect Him to Change
If on the other hand, there are big issues with the way your partner treats you or others, and you expect him to change, you will be disappointed. He will not change his ways, and you should not expect him to do so.
People who treat other people like dirt will continue to do so as long as they can get away with it. If you speak up or leave, they will find another person to be mean to rather than change.
7. The Difference in Core Values
When you and your partner disagree on core values, the beliefs you grew up with and adhere to in your everyday life, this will cause friction in the relationship. If you try to hold the relationship together and you disagree on core beliefs and general goodness, you will be fighting an uphill battle.
8. Same Issues, Different Day
When you have difficulties with the same issues over and over again, it is time to change your relationship status to single. If you have told him how his behavior makes you feel, and he won’t change, then he won’t change. It is time to move on.
9. When He Offers No Help
If your partner will not help you, with housework or anything you might need, then this is a sign of a toxic relationship. If he demands that you do all the work around the house, even if you work outside the home, he is setting you up for failure.
A relationship should be a 50-50 type union. You may do all the housework, but he may take care of the yard and cars or something similar. Whatever the split in care for the house is, it should be as even as possible.
10. When He Doesn’t Put Forth an Effort
If you are the one who is putting forth all the effort to make the relationship work, you will become resentful and drained before too long. A relationship requires effort on everyone’s part. If your partner is not doing any of the work, it may be time to think more about yourself than you as part of a couple.
11. When Feelings Change
Over time, feelings either become stronger, weaker or stay about the same. If your feelings for your partner are not becoming stronger or remaining the same, then they are diminishing.
